a discussion we had in WLC concerning women.
And guys on here get so bent out of shape when we voice our opinions on how we feel unwanted by men, especially black men. Like we’re a last option. And I’ve experienced this in all walks of life. This wasn’t just an isolated incidence. That way of thinking is prevalent. Regardless of the opinions of 50 or even a 100 black men on tumblr. Folks get on here and act like they forget how the real world operates and thinks and then points the finger at us when we voice frustrations. And this is not to say all black men feel this way, but I come across more that do than don’t. And many women react the way these women did because they’re conditioned to think they are a last option, if an option at all. It’s so sad to think we believe someone is lying when they pick us first. Sorry for all the commentary on your video, Walker.
I think it’s sad that as I watched this video as a black woman I was also very surprised that he prefers black women. It’s so unheard of nowadays for a black man or any other type of man to say they prefer black women. It is refreshing to hear that we are wanted (even though I know some men want us). It is just so rare to hear that we are wanted. I feel like I have been conditioned to feel less than or only good as the second option or the last resort (especially because I am a darker skinned black woman). I wish more men that preferred black women would stand up and be heard like this guy so more black women would understand that we truly are desirable as companions, girlfriends, and wives and not just as sexual fantasies. There are men out there that really want us.
The hate is real.
This is so real and I’m glad it’s discussed… I still have issues with being a second choice/option. I have trouble giving a guy a second chance when he treated me as a last resort to an another race woman. I’m told well he has grown up and is now looking for a more serious relationship… but how is that supposed to make me feel because inside all I wonder is what was so undesirable about me then that is so great now.
We as women are raised to get a black man at all cost but with black men acting like they don’t want us it leaves us wondering what the future holds in that aspect. Yes, I know there are black men that love black women and guess what… they are with black women. And for the record, black men and fetishize and have sexual fantasies of black women… it’s not just a white guy or other race thing… um… I want a long hair thick red bone… I called her big booty because she got a big booty… all I want for my birthday is a big booty hoe… I had black guy walk up to me and tell me he liked black girls with natural hair and big booty and I had both. That’s not the black love we are talking about… so I need this guys that truly love us for our intelligence, strength, personalities, independence, etc and not just of physical features to stand up and be heard. Your sister, niece, cousin, daughter, and/or best friend could be sitting feeling the same way we all do.